KeQing : The True Meaning of Love
A mother’s love for their children knows no bounds, regardless background and culture, they will give and give their all to provide for their children’s need. With Mother’s Day just around the corner, this is KeQing’s story.
On screen, KeQing is a cheerful and lively person. But not many would know she was once an insecure and selfish person, and was because of her growing up years.
KeQing has been growing up like a typical TV series, filled with it fair share of ups and downs. At the young age of 5, her parents divorced and she was separated from her parents. In order to earn a living, her mother worked as a part-time maid in Singapore. Her elder brother was under her grandmother’s care, while she and her then 10-year old sister had to seek refuge with relatives.
Such feelings of being abandoned at a very young age, and without a place to call home, both the sisters had to move between the relatives’ homes every two weeks. This caused a lot of inconvenience for their lives. As she was still very young at that time, she wasn’t affected as much unlike her sister who had sacrificed much.
Growing up with any parental guidance and company, KeQing have had to fend for herself, and she grew to become selfish. Occasionally, she would receive candies from Singapore when her mother returns for visit, but she would not share it with anyone. She also grew to dislike children as they would sometimes tease and bully her.
GROWING UP WITH MY SISTER
KeQing has grown up in her own world, apart from the company of her sister, she has two dolls with which she shares stories of the heart.
She said : “I used to cry a lot. When I cry in school, teachers would call my sister and she would leave school just to be with me. There was this once, my teacher confiscated my doll and I just couldn’t stop crying. It was not until my sister explained to my teacher, only then was it returned to me.”
KeQing also share this other time, when everyone in school had to take a vaccination jab, and she refused. She then clung on to a pole and refused to take it no regardless of the persuasion of her friends or teachers. It was not until her sister came, did she obediently gave in. Looking back, this has also become an incident that we joke about as a family.
As the saying goes, there’s always light at the end of the tunnel.
“Over the years, many a times I felt like giving up when faced with difficulties. But each time, there will also be a ‘guardian angel’ that appears to pick us up. We used to be very poor, I would only have RM2 pocket money, my sister and I would save all we could. We would visit the ‘mamak’ stall to buy a big bowl of rice and pour curry sauce over it and call it a meal. At times, the boss would take pity on us and would treat us to ice tea. Even if it’s a small gesture, we are thankful and grateful to each of these acts of kindness.”
A MOTHER’S TREASURE ARE HER CHILDREN
KeQing is grateful to have a sister who has always been like a mother during her formative years. Her mother who’s working in Singapore would visit them every two weeks.
She also remembers this once when a relative asked her mom about life as a divorcee. Her mother responded with s smile and acknowledges life goes on. But at that tender age of five, she asked : ” Mom, why do you smile, but I see your crying heart”.
She couldn’t remember and imagine herself asking such questions, but these are stories that were shared by her mother after she has grown up. Perhaps this is the bond between a mother and their child.
A mother’s love knows no bounds. One of KeQing’s most memorable moment was this one time, where a popular fast food chain was promoting ‘couple Hello Kitty’ dolls as premiums. Without fail, her mom would start queuing at 5am to buy it for her to buy an entire collection just for her. Her mom would also remind her : “Even though your father is not a good husband, he is a good father.”
KeQing’s mother only wish for her is to grow up and be healthy. Her mother is not very strict and is not overly protective, that is because she wants her to be able to fend for herself, to be able to pick herself up after each fall.
A TRUE FRIENDSHIP
In order to earn more money to support the family, KeQing at the age of 13 started working in the food and beverage industry. Not only that, she started gaining popularity on social networks and worked-hard in selling clothes and contact lenses online.
“During that time, earning and making money was the most important thing in my life. Friendship was not important to me then, as my friends would not be able to give me money.”
It was not until she met a good friend, who over time changed her outlook on life and helped her learn many other valuable life lessons. It was also this friend that encouraged her to enrol in a singing competition and that was how she was discovered by record companies.
Unfortunately, the day before the finals of the competition, her friend met with a car accident and passed away. Although KeQing was sad, but was determined not to give up and to live up to her friend’s expectations, she carried on to the finals.
“At that moment, I truly understand the difference between being onstage and back-stage. Despite moaning passing of a good friend, when on stage, I had to present my best self, tell a joke and please everyone to gain their support. Because of this, I think no matter what challenges life now throws at me, I believe I can always overcome them.”
Her mother would occasionally comfort her, and remind her that this friend was truly a God sent angle. After KeQing has grown up, the angel’s tasks was complete and have since taken leave.
IS THERE ANOTHER LOVE IN YOUR LIFE
Due to her insecurity, KeQing grew up longing for a happy family and also some tender loving care from another guy. But her previous romances have failed also because of her own insecurity.
KeQing is looking for love, but the guy must be a good family man. She says : “I am looking for a man who loves his family as himself.”
KeQing would also like to remind readers, that there will always be quarrels within the family. But one must remember never to let it fester and habour hatred towards each other. Life’s too short and we will never know what will happen next.
The song “Let Me Fall” is a song that’s specially tailored by the record company for KeQing and it means a lot to her, and hopefully through it all she is able to let go of all unpleasant things.
As we navigate through life challenges, we will always emerge stronger, for without it life would be rather boring. She believes that we must not be afraid to tell the truth to our family, friends and love ones. We should not blame or ask what others can do for us, but instead what can we do for the others? We must also not wait till it’s too late and say you are sorry.
可晴了解爱的真谛
“天下的妈妈都是一样的”，无论是在怎样的家庭，母亲都是任劳任怨地为孩子付出。趁着母亲节的来临，让我们一起倾听可晴内心深处的故事。
荧幕上看似开朗活泼的可晴，又有多少人能晓得曾经的她是一个自私又缺乏安全感的女孩，其实这都是她成长中的一个缺陷所造成。
可晴的人生就像戏剧般播映，5岁时，父母因不和而离异，让她被迫与家人分开。母亲为了赚取生活费而远赴新加坡当钟点女佣，哥哥托外婆照顾，而她与年龄相差10岁的姐姐则投靠亲戚家。
或许是寄人篱下的关系，当时她与姐姐居无定所，每两周就要搬迁一次，这为她们生活造成诸多不便。虽然父母的分开并没有带给可晴太大的阴影，毕竟她那时的年纪还很轻，反而是姐姐为她牺牲很多。
在没有父母的陪伴成长下，可晴变得自私和爱哭，她不爱与别人分享妈妈从新加坡买回来的糖果，她甚至很讨厌小朋友，因为小朋友们总爱欺负她。
成长路上幸好有姐姐
当时，可晴只活在自己的世界中，除了姐姐之外，陪伴她的只有两个洋娃娃，因此洋娃娃也变成了她诉说心事的对象。
她说：“我小时候很爱哭，每当在学校哭时，老师总是会拨电话给姐姐，这时姐姐就会逃学来陪我上课。有一次，老师还充公了我的洋娃娃，我一直在哭，经过姐姐解释后，老师才肯归还给我”。
此外，还有一次，全部同学都要去打预防针，可晴不肯，她紧紧抱着一根柱子不放，无论老师与同学怎么劝，她都不听，直到姐姐赶来，她才乖乖就范。事隔多年后，这件“柱”女事件演变成家人的笑话。
所谓“山重水复疑无路，柳暗花明又一村”。
“这么多年来，每当遇到困难想要放弃时，身边总会有贵人出现。以前的我们很穷，身上仅有2令吉零用钱，我和姐姐能省则省，经常在嫲嫲档买一大碗白饭，淋上咖哩汁便是一餐。老板见我们可怜，总会请我们喝茶冰，虽然只是一个小小的举动，但对我们来说已很满足。”
有妈的孩子像个宝
身兼母职的姐姐让可晴感激，但在外工作的母亲付出的也不少，妈妈每两周总会回来探望她们一次。
有一次，妈妈被亲友问及，离婚后过得还好吗？虽然妈妈却笑着答没事，但那时仅有5岁的可晴竟然对妈妈说：“妈咪，为什么你在笑，但我看到你心在哭”。
可晴完全无法想象自己当时说了这番话，这些都是妈妈在她长大后告诉她，或许这就是母女的心灵感应。
妈妈的爱胜过一切，令可晴最感动的是，当时某快餐店推出风靡全城的情侣吉蒂猫，妈妈不惜一切地从早上5时就开始排队为她购买，而且还存了全套给她。此外，妈妈还经常对她说：“虽然爸爸不是一位好老公，但他却是一位好爸爸”。
可晴妈妈对她的要求很简单，只希望看着孩子健康成长。不但如此，妈妈对可晴的教导不会严格，也不会过于保护，目的是让她自己跌倒自己爬起来。
难能可贵的友情
为了赚取更多的钱帮补家用，可晴在13岁时期开始投身餐饮服务，不仅如此，她也凭借着社交网络受欢迎的人气，在网上卖衣服、隐形眼镜等，勤劳地赚钱。
“当时的我赚钱为重，有没有朋友对我来说都没关系，因为朋友无法给我钱”。
后来，直到一位好友的出现，改变了可晴的人生与看法，教会她许多人生道理。也是这位好友替她报名参加歌唱比赛，因而被现有的唱片公司发掘。
不幸的是，在决赛的前一天，朋友因车祸离逝，可晴虽然伤心难过，但为了不辜负朋友对她的期望，她坚持去参加比赛。
“那一刻，我才知道台上和台下的分别，当时的心情很难过，但我却要在台上说笑话或来取悦大家。或许因为这样，现在无论遇到什么难题，对我而言都算不了什么。”
妈妈经常安慰她，这位好友就是上帝派来她身边的天使，当她长大懂事后，他的任务也就完成了，因此他便离她远去。
渴望男人的爱
缺乏安全感的可晴坦言，从小她就向往一个美满的家庭，也很渴望男人的爱，但以往的恋情都会因为自己的疑心重而导致分手。
现在，可晴的择偶要求是，这个男人一定要是个顾家的好男人。她说：“爱家的男人就会爱自己，以后我也会成为他家的一份子”。
至于，与家人的相处之道，可晴提醒大家，就算吵架都不要有隔夜仇，因为不知下一秒会发生什么事。
而《让我跌倒》这首歌是公司为可晴量身订做，因此特别有感触，希望她能“Let Go”所有不愉快的事。
经一事，长一智，人生才不会如此地平淡。不管对家人、朋友或情人，有什么想说的都要赶紧说。不要经常埋怨别人给不到你什么，在埋怨的同时，不妨先问问自己又能为别人做些什么？别等到错过后才懂得珍惜。
